For many people, the word “chastity” has a negative connotation – many associate it with misogynistic, puritanical ideas about virginity – but in the context of BDSM, it has a very different meaning.
All over the world, people lock their penises in chastity cages because they love the thrill and sexual sensation that accompany the feeling of submission.
Exactly how chastity works varies enormously from person to person.
For some, it involves one person – the submissive – wearing a chastity cage over his penis and ceding control to his dominant partner. Others simply lock up their penis themselves to experience the sexual arousal that comes with relinquishing control.
In essence, chastity is one of many ways in which people can achieve sexual satisfaction.
In recent years, October has become a special month of the year for chastity enthusiasts – and for those who want to dip their toe in the waters of kink.
For chastity enthusiasts, October is known as “Locktober”, a month-long event in which people wear chastity cages for 31 days straight.
It’s not necessarily that strict, of course – like all kink, it varies from person to person, and there are no hard and fast rules on what chastity should look like. Each person – or couple – is free to explore Locktober in whatever way they please.
Kevin’s Experience with Locktober
Kevin does Locktober because he likes the “state of mind of repressed frustration” that chastity brings.
“Being pushed into this repressed and frustrated state of mind is incredibly pleasurable. It can make you feel very submissive and that feeling of frustration can really push you to try new ideas and kinks.
I also love the humiliation aspect of it, especially with those who aren’t locked up. Most like to tease, which can be very emasculating, but it all adds to the fun and frustration.”
This isn’t the first time Kevin has attempted Locktober – he also took on the challenge in October 2020, but it didn’t go as well as he’d hoped.
“There’s always a lot of effort involved, which can be hard, but that’s part of the fun,” he says.
Michael’s Perspective on Chastity
Like Kevin, Michael became interested in chastity quite early – he was about 19 when he first tried it. His experience was “a lot of fun,” he says.
He is currently “self-locked”, meaning he wears and controls his own chastity cage.
“I think sex in general should be fun, and exploring different interesting things is part of that,” he says.
“The term ‘kink’ is a very broad, catch-all term – there’s so much to explore in this area, from a simple jockstrap to leather bondage.”
Challenges and Concerns about Locktober
Locktober often involves giving someone else the key to your cage. Michael isn’t really participating in Locktober this year – he prefers to explore chastity at his own pace.
Chastity pros worry that Locktober is “too long” for beginners.
“My only problem is that a whole month of chastity is too long for most people who have no experience of chastity,” says Eli Shaw. However, he adds, “If you persist, your body will adapt.”
Michael worries about the pressure Locktober can put on people who are new to chastity.
Consent and Caution
Consent is essential when it comes to Locktober and chastity. Eli Shaw emphasizes the importance of consent in dom/sub relationships.
“Ultimately, consent is the cornerstone of dom/sub relationships. With consent comes trust and honesty. Consent is the most important thing, and a lot of times people think the dom is in charge, but in fact, technically, he’s not, because the submissive is – he’s the one who consents to things being done to him. That’s where things like safety words come in.”
Exploring Chastity Online
Fortunately, those who try Locktober – or those exploring chastity more broadly – have a whole online network to rely on.
There are countless people willing to share tips and advice on Twitter, and there are online forums where people can connect with doms and subs who can be part of their chastity journey.
TeamLocked is one such forum. The site was recently acquired by EmlaLock, another online platform dedicated to the art of chastity.
TeamLocked allows locked subscribers and their key holders to share photos, keep a calendar of their chastity and complete various challenges. It also enables subscribers to find potential keyholders.
The ElmaLocked team is keen to stress that it’s the submissive who “sets the conditions” for their own chastity.
“Of course, you can always improve and stay locked up longer – or you can be forced to improve – but it’s always the wearer who defines the baseline,” they explain.
“There are no predefined rules for Locktober – you make the rules.”
They also urge caution for those trying chastity for the first time – not all potential keyholders have good intentions.
Conclusion
In conclusion, Locktober is a month-long event that has gained popularity among chastity enthusiasts in the BDSM community. People participate for various reasons, and the experience of chastity varies from person to person.
Consent, trust, and communication are essential in any BDSM dynamic, including those involving chastity. While Locktober can be a fun challenge, it’s important for participants to prioritize their physical and mental well-being.
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